Forgiveness and Unforgiveness

Wednesday, September 13th, 2017

Jesus said that if we do not forgive others, that we ourselves would not be forgiven (Matthew 6:15). Just forgive in your heart and move on. Jesus did not say to the adulterous woman, “Go and fix everything and everyone you have wronged.” No! He just said go and “you” sin no more. I have seen people become very dramatic about calling people up in their distant past, flying to the city where they lived and resurrecting things that are not beneficial. Here is the point: one is a focus on other people, and one is a focus on your own sins and your own relationship with God. Your own reconciliation with God is the goal. Let Him guide you.

A God-focused relationship will automatically result in a better and restored relationship with mankind. As you just focus on laying down your own strongholds, you will become merciful, because you see the degree of difficulty. A forgiving nature is birthed in the heart of a truly repentant person.

The repentant tax collector in Luke 19 offered to go back and pay people he had wronged four times what he had taken from them. Sometimes God will call you to this. But, for the most part, sinners were not asked to dwell on their history.

Here is what John the Baptist told sinners:

“What should we do then?” the crowd asked. John answered, “The man with two tunics should share with him who has none, and the one who has food should do the same.” Tax collectors also came to be baptized. “Teacher,” they asked, “what should we do?” “Don’t collect any more than you are required to,” he told them. Then some soldiers asked him, “And what should we do?” He replied, “Don’t extort money and don’t accuse people falsely—be content with your pay.” Luke 3:10-14

They were asked to start that day being different. These people were focused on how they had hurt the Father. If we are the victim, we need to know that everything that happened to us is screened by the Father. Now go forth and realize the same… God is allowing what is happening to you and therefore must want this circumstance for a reason (I Corinthians 7:20).

My guess is that all of us have played both victim and abuser roles at some point in time. Whether you are the victim or abuser, repent of your own past and present sins. Reconciliation with God first and mankind second will be inevitable—not vice versa. God takes care of victims. Fear for the hearts of the abusers and pray for them, because this God of ours will take revenge on those who wrong us. He loves justice.

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