When your children obey you, it makes you love to do things for them in return. On the other hand, when your child has just rebelled against you, talked back, and had no respect for you… you do not feel like going out and buying them a car or rewarding them in any way. Now multiply this, because God made you, your personality, your eyes, your ears, your gifts and talents and brains, and has taken care of you every minute since you have been born, and you then spurn Him, pay Him little attention, and claim that you have been blessed because of your own talent. This is even more painful to God. Obedience with love and respect has the opposite effect. It is the glue that brings the parent and the child together.